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Yes, yes, I’ve got my hands full.

March 26, 2007

Dear Man in the Yellow Coat:
Hi. I’m sure you’re actually a nice and considerate person. But I wanted to let you know that it is incredibly unhelpful for you to stand in the middle of the doorway and comment “Wow! Twins, you’ve really got your hands full.” I realize that I must have looked like quite a sight pushing a double stroller and carrying a bunch of bags. It would have been alot better if you had opened the door for me or at the very least stepped aside so I could get out of the rain.
Twin Mom in a Hurry

Okay, I’m really never sure how to handle the comments I get. I’ve almost gotten used to twins being a spectacle wherever we go. But some of those comments are just down right rude.

It’s not an outing with twins unless at least one person makes the “you’ve got your hands full” comment. I once read the quote from another twin mom’s website which read “If you think my hands are full you should see my heart.” I love this statement. I may have to get it tattooed on my forehead. Until that happy day I will do my best to smile and move on.

My other favorite (*sarcasm*) comment is “better you than me.” Yes, you’re absolutely right. It is better me than you. I love my girls and as hard as it can be to have two at once, I’d rather have them both than just one or none at all. After all, which one would I return? I’m wondering will these people keep saying this in a few years when the girls can understand? Will I have the strength not to run them over with my shopping cart if they do? This comment offends me almost as much as “I’d like to be a SAHM but I don’t know what I’d do all day.”

The last comment that used to really bother me is “Awww, I always wanted twins.” It’s taken alot of time but I think I’m finally reaching a place where I can say I love having twins and mean it. But those first few months I thought this was the stupidest thing I’d ever heard of. Please, please, please NEVER say this to a sleep deprived mother (or father) trying to purchase desperately needed diapers while also trying to calm two crying 8-week olds one of whom just spit up all over the place. If you do be sure to duck because a large object is likely to be hurled at your head. Or get out the tissues as the mother just might burst into tears.

Finally, The Twinkies put is really well in her post “Multiples are NOT a Freakshow.” I, too, can completely sympathize with how cute two or more babies at once look. I’ve gotten more patient about answering questions. I can even pretend I don’t see you when you are pointing/staring/following me. But some of the things that I saw in that video are just horrifying.

Sorry for another rant but it was just that kind of weekend.

4 Comments leave one →
  1. Perky permalink
    March 26, 2007 4:50 pm

    Thanks for posting the link to that video. That was absolutely amazing! I can’t believe the sheer number of idiots in such a short time all in one place! I did like the kid who said “three-lets” — that was cute!

  2. Swistle permalink
    March 26, 2007 5:54 pm

    I usually don’t mind comments, but I AM sick of “You’ve got your hands full!”–mostly because there’s no good reply. What am I supposed to say? “Uh huh”? I even prefer it when someone asks if my (boy-girl) twins are identical: at least then I have an ANSWER: I can say, “No, fraternal.” There’s no answer to “You’ve got your hands full!” or “Double trouble!”–and no polite answer to “Better you than me!”

  3. M-j permalink
    March 26, 2007 7:20 pm

    I have two kids and people always think they are twins. I get the most insane comments. People are stupid. Better yet, I get insane comments when they realize Bugaboo is autistic. They say dumb stuff like, “You mean, like Rainman?” or ask if he is really smart and stuff like that. I wanna hurl things at them too.
    My sister’s SIL has triplets. Two of them are identical. You can imagine the kind of questions she gets, like “Are they all from the same father.” I kid you not!

  4. Joselle@WilliamsTriplets permalink
    March 27, 2007 3:58 am

    Let’s see… I had one Einstein the other days say “triplets- is that 3?” or better yet, the cashier who after finding out they were triplets, asked me if they were born at the same time (nope genius- they forgot and left one in a few weeks longer). But the topper was the couple who actually stopped and took our picture like we were from Ripley’s Believe it or Not.

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